Signs of Family Abuse

 An "interactive questionnaire" to identify abuse in any family.  Any of these activities, should pose a "red flag" as confirmation of ongoing or the beginning of family "abuse".

1.  Are there family members that seemingly out of the blue are suddenly unusually closer than  ever before?

2.  Is there isolation going on, possibly turning the family member (victim) away from family members.

3.  Is there secrecy going on?  With respect to finances where other family members are not privy?
    
4.  Secret/covert agreements seniors sworn to?
    
5.  Constant discretization of other family members to keep parents away from these siblings?

6.  Discovering powers of attorney existing without others family members knowledge.

7.  Powers of attorney being changed without the rest of the family's knowledge.   

7.  When on medication, or diagnosed with dementia, more interest than usual taken on, possibly already having   
      taken their victim to make abuser the power of  attorney or executor/trix?

8.  Aware that there is no central registry for powers of attorney?  A more current power of attorney may be in use? 
      Revoked powers of attorney still in use?

9.  Multitude of powers of attorney in a very short period of time?  Definite sign something is going on and  should
      be looked into closely.

9.  Undue influence being exercised on elderly or vulnerable party,  often stating that they are uneducated and
      therefore "dumbing down" when it comes to financial matters?

10. Asking an elderly to "trust them" without anything in writing?  No independent legal advice?  Often relying on             the old generational "good old handshake" the elderly grew up respecting the value of one's  word?

11.  Unusual credit activity, possibly with the use of power of attorney applying for credit for abusers?
12.  Transfer of land through use of power of attorney?  (check title at Land Registry for confirmation -  assuming a
        relative does not work there and withholding registration.)

13.  Illegal interception of mail, rerouting bills, etc., in order to go undetected?

14.  Requesting that vulnerable party sign affidavits against other family members which has no  basis except in
       abuser (s)' motives?
15.  Demanding that vulnerable party "charge" other family members as a means to isolate senior, to the extent of
        having them perjure themselves?
16.  Constantly surrounding vulnerable senior, with only their take as to circumstances surrounding any matter
        involving senior?  Keeping victim in the "dark of the truth" until too late?
17.  Isolating seniors or allowing them contact only with other family members/friends /officials  who have already
       been coached or deceived to ensure that the vulnerable party unaware of  the truth of the situation?  Victim
        being manipulated until it is too late and they have signed away their rights?  Victim after having given up all
        his/her rights is then abandoned by abuser  who moves on to next prey?

18.  When deemed competent, individual family members requesting copies of medical reports,  access to bank
        accounts (with legal or revoked P. of A."), intercepting of mail, copies of power   of attorney from lawyer's office,
        copies of cellular records, letters to organizations to discredit dissenting family members as to the care of their
        parents of which they are entitled to their opinion?

19.  Arbitrarily taking over, without consultation of rest of family as to health care of parent/vulnerable person? 
        This should also be a "red flag".

20.  Business dealings with vulnerable/elderly not properly documented as to transparency for their safety and for
         the sake of the estate and in event of death of abused to avoid family conflict?
       
21.  Unconscionable business dealings, not a fair market valuation, without interest, no set terms,   no records?

22.  Family members (abusers) refuse to involve a lawyer?  That is cause for concern as they obviously have no
        intentions of upholding their agreement or have something more sinister to hide.

23.  Familiarity?  Be especially concerned if dealing with small town residents easily influenced by life- time
         acquaintances easily deceived into accepting abusers "story".  Residents may not uphold the same regulations
         or privacy of information standards enforced by larger centers who adhere strictly to proper protocol and
         procedures.
24.  Out of  "jurisdictions"?  Claiming resident no longer a resident?  This after victim chased out of his/her home
         into another province, or state, fearing  his/her life?  Reporting victim to  ensure no longer insured for driving,
         medical, mail, and even court jurisdiction in a province  they have lived all  their lives and have relocated for
         safety reasons?

25.  Deliberately seeking unfamiliar Justice of the Peace to "set aside" protection orders unaware  of the previous
        Protection Orders?  Possibility that all the most recent affidavits, rebuttals may have been rejected by the court
        enabling the abusers to "set aside" Protection Orders based on more? Unsubstantiated false abuser allegations
        not backed with any documented evidence whatsoever?

26.  Loss of memory (being drugged) at critical times to ensure that victim complies with abuser demands to go to
        the RCMP to charge a third innocent party, or to Court to testify under oath, (perjury) whereby victim has
        no recollection of events thereafter?

27.  Uncalled for "Protection Orders" based on perjury, false allegations to the Court based on fear of reprisal of
         abusers?
28.  Unnecessary psychotic medications, that may or may not have been prescribed while at the hospital, based on
         requests by family members who misinformed the staff of the victims condition after victim stands up for
         himself or to keep victim in a medical fog in order that he  not assert himself?  Psychotic medication is optional
         on hospital discharge instructions,  optional, to be used at discretion of the family doctor?

29.  Threats on telephone, in person, in private, or in the presence of others stating that abuser threatening to
        "commit" victim when a temporary medical condition exists, i.e. concussion?

30.  Awareness of financial activities of abusers, new mortgage taken out recently at time of accidental illness of
        victim, in order to take advantage of first opportunity to move a senior and break their agreement or financially
        suppress victim in any way?

31.  Sudden changes to senior's living accommodations, which were never an issue before a fall or illness?

32.  Using the medical system to try to "commit a party" for financial gain, making unfavorable remarks to hospital
         staff, insisting on psychiatric assessments when illness obviously physical in nature?

This is but a small sampling of tactics used by abusers in order to get courts and other organizations to rule in their favor, distorting the truth, deceiving legal bodies, often with the victim in tow who is "paralyzed with fear" - unable  to stand up to these bullies and threatened, in bondage, unable to speak the truth.

Most cases the victim is never interrogated separately from abusers. Victims forced to agree in public, knowing the truth, to the extent of perjuring themselves or face further threats and even physical harm if they do not comply to their demands.

Ongoing "blackmail" for events which occurred thirty years ago, never an issue prior to this, ie divorce, violence, perceived child abuse, resuscitated so as to terrorize and "control"  their victim to exploit victim and supporters to conceal whatever despicable and illegal acts perpetrators are concealing and are going to any length to ensure their criminal activity is not exposed!